Welcome to Manuscript Monday, friends!
I haven’t had one in a few weeks, but I just wanted to check in, and keep you updated on both the progress of the book and the content. I’m still revising, probably revising it to death, but I can’t stand letting it out of my hands until I think it’s as good as I can make it.
Yesterday I was listening to Coldplay’s “Fix You.” The chorus of this song makes me emotional, and makes me reflect on my own life and this manuscript I’m writing.
The chorus, for those who don’t know the song (video below) is as follows:“Lights will guide you home And ignite your bones And I will try to fix you.” .
Many people, when relating to, or talking about this song, focus on the first and third lines of the chorus. It makes sense. Everyone goes through a time in life where we feel broken, beaten, or lost. We need home and sometimes desperately want that one person who we believe can make us whole again.
The chorus of “Fix You” resonates with so many who have gone through small or large trauma because the idea of home is safety, security, and love. And when you find that home (wherever, or whoever it is) you believe it/he/she can “fix you.”
In my case, “home” is my husband, Kurt. We’ve been married for twenty years, and I know that his unconditional love has given me the space and security in which to heal. The latter portion of my manuscript is about that healing and recovery, and finding what makes me thrive.
Thriving, I think, is what “ignite your bones” is ultimately about, and why it’s my favorite of the three lines here. Because in the end, no matter how deep the love, another person can actually only give us support, but it is we who must fix ourselves.
We can do that by finding the space, the love, safety and security in which to recover. It takes time: months; years; sometimes even decades. With time, strength and confidence return.
Ignites your bones is the fire that starts in the marrow, moving outward until we’re not only bathed in it, but spreading it to those around us. This is warmth; this is thriving; this is what it means to really live again.