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My Kind of Patriot

Today’s post is a follow-up on a post I wrote in 2012, 11 years after the terrorist attacks in America. You’re welcome to read the original here, but it is mostly captured again in the words below, leading up to the 2015 extension at the end. This post is not about conspiracy theories, or blame, […]

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In Defense of Car Guards

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Some people have asked me about “car guards” in South Africa, since I’ve mentioned them a time or two. This is a group of individuals I care about, and among whom I have very good friends, so here is my answer, along with my disappointment in those who look down on them… *A “car guard” […]

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Things Unknown but Longed For Still

What is the African name for Pretoria

I don’t think after living in South Africa that I could ever keep a caged bird. They are so incredibly happy flying in the trees, and fluttering back and forth to the feeder, and eating together as a large, social unit. Lately, love birds are my most abundant visitors.

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The Craft of Reading and the Stalking of Dinty W. Moore

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As I’m sitting at the cafe this morning, writing my latest Expat Focus column, I keep telling myself “I’m working. I’m working.” I used to tell myself (and others) “I’m writing. I’m writing. I’m writing.” The simple shift in words seems to have finalized a shift in attitude I’ve been trying to maintain, and I […]

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I’m Proud to be a Rhinoceros!

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I am a rhinoceros. I realized that just a few hours ago, and I love it! Let’s settle one thing first. If you read that title and in any way think, “Aww, shame” or have any kind of pity that I would think of myself as a rhino, then you and I are different creatures […]

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There Was a Little Girl…

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Do you have a nursery rhyme or poem, or saying from childhood that still stays with you? In my case, I internalized a poem by Henry Wadsworth Longfellow: There was a little girl By Henry Wadsworth Longfellow There was a little girl,             Who had a little curl, Right in the middle of her forehead.             When […]

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Making Sand Angels in the Arabian Desert, Traveling Marla-Style

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Do you know one of those people who have to look good in every photo he/she takes, or won’t put it online? I am not one of those people. Whether it’s a blog, or a social media site, I have acquaintances who post a stream of selfies in which they just “happen” to look their […]

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What Literary Character Are You?

I hate those quizzes. Have you seen them on social media? Which Downton Abbey character are you? Or, which Jane Austin heroine are you? Which Duck Dynasty star is your twinsie? (Stay with me ’til the end and you can take a quiz to find out which of Marla’s siblings you are…) Then they proceed […]

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Honeycomb, Won’t You Be My Baby? Wait…You Want HOW MUCH??

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Er, I just re-read my title and realized it might sound like I was soliciting a box of Honeycomb. Finding our favorite American foods in South Africa, as I’ve told you in previous posts, can be difficult, and sometimes impossible. But it really hasn’t been a big problem for us. We’ve adapted pretty well, I […]

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Rainbow vs. Garieb: Thoughts on The New South Africa

It’s Writer Wednesday, friends, and this week I’m taking a look at Professor Neville Alexander’s Thoughts on The New South Africa. One of the great democratic strengths of the new South Africa is the fact that matters such as ‘race’  and gender continue to be discussed in public and openly, often with great passion, in […]

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