Only “A Few Years”: A Goodbye Post

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Me and my beautiful granddaughter, Adeline

Hello everyone.  My name is Jeff, Marla’s older, and only, brother.  I wanted to help out with my sister’s dilemma of not having enough hours in her days to get all of the things ready for her move to R.S.A. and still fill some blog spots for those of us who “need to get a life” because we grow too impatient waiting on her next post!

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Kurt & Marla in Florida. This goodbye isn’t going to be like the others.

While I don’t presume to be able to fill the need for all, I will at least give her something to post so that all her readers have even more reason to desire her return to the podium!

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Kissing a crayfish at Adeline’s first birthday party (Don’t ask…she’s weird.)

I really could not think of anything interesting to write about, I’ve always been the type of guy quick with the “snappy comebacks” and the sarcastic remarks, quite a lot of fun in the short term, but irritating to be around for any length of time.  My sisters can both attest to this, as I was definitely not one of those “big brother” types. As I remember it, I spent most of my youth making life Hell for both of my younger sisters; probably more so for my sister Wendy than I did Marla, but I did have five more years with Wendy to figure out all of her “buttons”.

It is a very difficult thing to attempt to mend a mentally abusive relationship (let’s face it, that is what years of “picking on your sisters” really is!) There is always the unspoken element of mistrust when the former “picker” now seems to be sincerely trying to have an honest, open relationship with you!  “Ok, what’s he up to this time?”

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My little sisters and I, playing music together at our house in Goheenville, PA in the early 1970’s. That’s me on the banjo. Wendy is in the striped shirt. Marla Jane is on the far side of the bench.

I do believe that over the past couple decades I have earned some of that trust back, but I don’t think it ever all goes away.
Enough of that introspective crap!  If it weren’t for all the typing I’ve already done to this point, I’d probably erase it all and start over!  Some writer I’d make, huh?…”I don’t care if it does suck, I wrote it, just print it!”

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The Druzgals in Florida

What I really wanted to write about is how much we are going to miss Marla and Kurt over the next few years.  Sure, we’ll get to follow along with her travels and hopefully many, many blog posts, emails, letters and skype visits; but I am going to very much miss them physically! Marla and I don’t visit each other very often. The fact is, we don’t even talk much on the phone…once or twice a month on average, and perhaps a few times more than that by email or text. “So”, you’re asking yourself, “what’s the big deal? You guys don’t talk that much anyway, and see each other even less!”  I think it is mostly the distance.  South Africa is a long way! And “Years” is a long time!

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Me and my granddaughter, Clara

I’ll be 50 years old this November! It’s shocking just to see that written in front of me! I have already outlived our father by 5 years, and while I still have a way to go before I catch our mother, I have started to develop a very keen awareness of how much can happen in just a few years.  I (we) have lost many who were very loved in the past “few years”. We have had new BEAUTIFUL additions to the family in the past “few years”.

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Marla holding her youngest grand-niece, Clara, after Clara’s baptism.

So many terrible and wonderful things in the world have happened in the last “FEW YEARS”!  It seems that when I was young, and my children were young, life was a gentle breeze; always there, but never really noticed. Now, at what I am quite sure is well beyond the halfway point of my life; I look back to see life was more of a hurricane gale which blasted life by with all the compassion of a rabid dog!

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My wife, Nancy with our granddaughters, Adeline and Clara. I don’t think it’s going to hit Marla just how much she’ll miss her grand-nieces until she’s too far away for a weekend visit.

When I hear someone say that they have no regrets in their life, I can’t help wonder if they have really lived! Maybe they just haven’t lived long enough to look back and wish they had spent a little more time enjoying a moment! If I could “do it all over again” I probably wouldn’t change very much, but I sure as Hell would focus more on the times as they happened!

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Marla’s niece, Brianna, with her husband, Mike and daughters, Adeline and Clara
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Brandon reading to Adeline. These are the things that are gone in “just a few years.”

I guess I’m just trying to say that I am more than a little apprehensive about Marla and Kurt leaving the country for these next “few years.”  Not because I worry about their safety or anything so noble; but because I know I am going to miss them and want to be able to give my sister a hug from time to time…selfish, I know.

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Marla at last year’s family gathering.

Safe travels!, dear sister.  May time be a gentle breeze for us both!

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Spending time with my wife, Nancy, in Florida.



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The real Jeff Sink

About Jeff:

I was born in 1963 in Sharon, PA. In 1982 I married Nancy, incredible Nancy, the most tolerant woman on earth!
2 remarkable children: Brandon, now 30 years young, and a fantastic human being and good friend.  And Brianna, now 28 years young and still love of my life! Married to Mike Parks (I could not have chosen better for her myself) and mother to the two most beautiful granddaughters God could have ever given us!! Adeline, soon to be 2, and Clara, almost 5 full months!

After a bit of traveling in our early years, we have been living on family homestead for around 20 years.  I have been working for a small kitchen, bath and floorcovering company for 24 years (guess I’m in a rut!)

Nancy and I still love to travel, although outside of a Florida trip once or twice a year, don’t get to do it as often as we would like.  We enjoy spending as much time as possible with our children and grandchildren, and consider ourselves blessed that neither of our kids live too far away.

Hunting, our 3 labradors, walks and simple country living occupy most of our free time.

I’ll be 50 this November, so I am thinking about getting that rocking chair!


Can’t get enough of my brother’s voice? Neither can I. Read a little more of his humorous side, in his Elderberry Overture post.


Traveling Marla is unplugged for three weeks while she prepares for her move to South Africa. She put out a call for guest posts (see original request here), and is grateful to receive so much support! Please see the full list below.

Please support these writers by reading each of their guest posts and checking out their own blogs!

Thanks, as always for taking time to read my blog and comment. Although I’m offline right now, I will return in a few short weeks when we’re settled in South Africa and I promise to read all of your comments!

Love, Marla

Kayla, of Encounter Peru
Benjamin Prewitt – Expression of my life – An evolution of art
Kriscinda, of Heavy Metal Homesteading
Lynne, of Home Free Adventures
Jeff: my witty and hilarious ebberlubbinbrudder
Jody, of Human Triumphant
Julie of
Ingrid, of Live Laugh RV
Ned Hickson of Ned’s Blog
Rose, of On the Go Fitness
Pierr Morgan
Leslie and Amanda, of Survival is Relative
Colin of Uber Beast Mode
Robyn, of You Think Too Much
Baz – The Landy (Out and About and Having Fun)
Brandon: my quirky, brilliant, dashing nephew
Dallas, of Crazy Train to Tinky Town
Caroline, of Currer and the Bells
Dakota Garilli
Trophos, of The Dancing Professor
Leo, of Doggy’s Style

10 thoughts on “Only “A Few Years”: A Goodbye Post

  1. Ebberlubbin through and through. Wonderful photo album…and heartfull bruddersapprecapp. Sweetness on you and your family.

    1. Thank you Pierr!! And I just LOVE that “bruddersapprecapp”! I couldn’t have put it better meeself!

  2. Really nice, big brother…and I think I may almost be over all that mental abuse…care to donate to my mental health fund??

  3. Aw Jeff, my sentiments exactly. We don’t see Kurt and Marla much either but knowing they weren’t too far away was comforting. Can’t wait for the Welcome Home party in a few years.

  4. Jeff, what a touching post! I think we’re all going to suffer some Marla withdrawal, but these pictures will help get us through.

    1. Thanks, Caroline. I’m not usually so sappy! But I know a lot of people will miss her.

    1. Haha yea, one of these days I’ll have to post Marla’s “Chaquita Banana” song and dance vid!

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